Well its been a while yet again but considering all we are going through its surprises me how strong we can be. My husband's mom stayed with us due to her increased dementia and it finally got to the point where we couldn't take care of her needs. So we then had to find a EMI unit hopefully close so we could still visit her which in the end we did. The one thing that was shocking was how much some of the homes wanted to be paided from the family. But again seeing how much care she needed, I do understand that issue but we just did not have the funds. But the place we found was close and its a nicely run place and she is taken care of and the careers do a really great job. But the sad thing is how she refuses to accept the situation and this is not just the illness she has always been difficult to deal with the fact the world is what it is and we have to accept that. She won't. So this has had a dark effect on my husband. And its really sad to see how different my dad and his mom are acting about this illness. Dad gets confused and frustrated but understands he has this disease and accepts it. Where Keith's mom fights and argues that everyone else is wrong she is perfectly fine.
To say I am worried about this on my husband is putting it mildly, My dad just recently died and it has been another blow in my own self as well the family. The thing is that for him it was unexpected and quick. I think he understood and didn't want to live this way anymore as well as not hurting his family. For my mother-in-law I fear she would take her kids with her. So in this record I see how to love unconditional and how to destroy intensely.
T
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